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Healing of a broken marriage

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I used to consider myself a very good husband and father.

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At that time, I had a keen interest in New Age culture.

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Things like crystals, “Indigo-children”,

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or “Light worker”,

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I was very passionate about those things and beliefs.

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I thought that I was spiritually superior to people around me,

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and that I was the “chosen one”,

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and that I was sent here to help people around me.

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But in reality,  I was an irresponsible father,

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and also an irresponsible husband who engaged in relationships outside my marriage.

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The relationship between me and my wife Maico was totally broken at that time;

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we were always arguing.

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The Word “whatever man sows, that he will also reap” was true.

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Later on , my wife decided to end our marriage and leave me.

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I wanted to become a jazz pianist.

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I thought that everybody would accept me if I could become a famous pianist.

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I didn’t have any confidence in myself.

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I always needed a beer & a cigarette in my hand to be with other people.

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I was always concerned about what people thought of me,

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and was very anxious about that.

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But it didn’t mean that I cared about others.

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Then I got married, and our child was born,

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life became even harder.

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I wasn’t able to do anything I wanted to do.

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I didn’t have time to practice piano.

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I actually preferred to be a pianist rather than a mother,

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so I was struggling.

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Everyday was just a routine,

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and I was frustrated with my husband.

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Honestly,  we were having a fight every single day.

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In front of our child,

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or in front of anybody, we would argue.

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Our marriage totally collapsed.

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It came to a point where I couldn’t continue anymore

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and thought about getting a divorce.

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Then I started to have an affair.

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Back then, life was so difficult.

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Everyday was depressing,

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and our marriage was heading to an end.

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Maico’s relatives were all against me, and they all agreed that we should get a divorce.

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One day I was driving back from work,

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and just snapped - I couldn’t take it anymore!  I shouted:

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“If you are really there God, won’t you please HELP me!”

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“I just cannot handle it anymore.”

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I yelled out very loudly.

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From that single, honest cry,

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something started to change me from the inside.

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I started to read God`s Words in the Bible.

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and shared it with Maico.

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A few months, almost half a year later,

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we forgave each other and decided to restart our marriage.

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When I look back at those days and our situation

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I realize that God really healed our wrecked relationship.

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From a hopeless place, God started to lead and change me.

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Now we are blessed with 3 children.

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This change wasn’t something I worked on.

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It happened through God, step by step.

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It became very natural to think that my wife was precious,

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and now I could really see and care from my heart for my child.

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It was only through God,

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He brought us back so that we could be here together today.

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Now we want to share this Good News of God to other people.

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Through music, or Gospel workshops,

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we do what we can to share the gospel of Jesus.

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